They say that the silver lining in hitting rock bottom is that there's no place to look but up. That would be true except for the surrounding mess that is the average person's instinctive first focus.
The thoughts come pouring in through the first breech of mental security with questions of, "How did I get here?" "Where did I go wrong?" "Why is this happening to me?" and variations of those emotions taking the form of uncertainty. Trying to find the point of impact and who should be blamed, generally comes first.
As far as the meaning of average goes, I'd say it defines my life pretty accurately, and when I hit my emotional rock bottom, I didn't think of looking up for quite some time.
To those on the outside of your situation, dwelling on an issue is no way to move past it. In my experience, however, moving past a situation too quickly can prove to be just as bad for you as lingering in it for too long. There are no reasonable standard for these things but there are necessary steps to go through, how long you choose to dwell on each step is entirely up to you.
I've personally revisited variations of the bottom, far too frequently. The last time I was there, I decided that despite how much it would hurt to rub my nose in all the pain I was feeling, it would be beneficial, in the long run, to figure out how to never come back, and to leave myself a trail of breadcrumbs in case I did find myself back in the pit.
The point is, even the worst feelings, if understood, can be changed or let go of.
Kimolee Eryn is an artist and writer who believes in creating for a purpose beyond the purpose of creating. She believes that a life should be lived not just to sustain itself but to cultivate peace, love and growth in all adjacent beings and hopes to exemplify that in all she does.